Post 21: When Parents Discover Their Power
The Calm That Comes When Parents Discover Their Power
When Lisa joined our TheraParent community, she was like so many moms I met: devoted, resourceful, and—quietly—wondering if all the rushing from one therapy to the next was really the only way forward. She’d “done traditional physical therapy for many years,” tried innovative approaches during the pandemic, and then found WeFlow. What caught her attention first was something so simple it almost felt suspicious: a soft roller made from a sock. “She seemed to like it… I thought, well, this can’t hurt. Let’s try something more.”
The early weeks weren’t dramatic. They were gentle. Subtle. But subtle didn’t mean insignificant. Lisa started to notice her daughter was “more relaxed,” “sitting in her wheelchair more comfortably,” and “sleeping better.” She added small supports throughout the day—“so much foam” on the bed, activity chair, table, even the wheelchair—until their home felt, in her words, “fashion-friendly.” (We both laughed at the slip. She meant fascia-friendly—and it absolutely was.)
Like many parents, Lisa hesitated to schedule her first reassessment. “I wasn’t really sure that we were seeing results… I was afraid we wouldn’t really see significant changes.” When we finally reviewed her videos side-by-side, zooming in on tiny shifts in engagement and ease, something clicked. “You were able to see things that I was unable to see… that was so exciting and really gave me a lot of hope and motivation to continue.” The quiet changes she was sensing had proof.
But maybe the most beautiful shift wasn’t structural—it was relational.
Lisa shared with such honesty: “I’m not a mom who really likes to play. I don’t love toys. I read my daughter books—we have tons and tons of books—but I don’t do a lot of imaginative play.” For years, that left her feeling like there was a “right way” to be a therapy mom, and she didn’t fit it. And then fascia work gave her a different door into connection.
“Doing these exercises and dedicating the time… it’s something that I’m doing with her. I feel connected to her. She feels connected to me. I feel like it’s purposeful. I’m helping her.” Those minutes together stopped being a task to power through and became time to be together—with a rhythm that worked for both of them. “Once we’re in position, I set the timer and just go… it benefits her, but it also benefits me too.”
Part of that benefit was sheer practicality. As her daughter grew, the classic way of “lifting, moving, manipulating” got harder. “She’s getting heavier.” The old approach felt like effort stacked on effort. Fascia didn't work. “It feels soft… for me and for her. It’s not like, oh, let’s do these exercises now and it’s going to be hard.” She described it as “kind of a meditative time”—earbuds in, music or silence—while her daughter relaxed, sometimes “zoning out,” sometimes edging toward sleep if it was close to bedtime. Calm for both of them. Connection for both of them. Progress that didn’t require force.
Those gentle inputs started to ripple into places that mattered deeply to Lisa: communication and autonomy. Positioning for her daughter’s eye-gaze device had always been tricky—“there was a lot of movement in her head,” and small changes in support could mean the difference between access and frustration. On a coaching call she brought a short video from speech therapy, and together we tinkered: a little tilt here, added neck support there. Soon after, school sent a message Lisa will never forget: her daughter had said “feet sad.” They took off the AFOs; she “smiled brightly.” Later came “bathroom help.” Then the fun stuff: music preferences, turning lights on, even jokes. “She really is funny. And she knows it. You can see her face light up—‘Ooh, I did it.’”
There were hard moments, too—like when the school decided to drop in-school therapy time. “I was really upset… I wasn’t willing to accept that.” She brought the tears to a coaching call, and then brought her determination to the next day’s routine. “She’s always growing and progressing and it’s never the end.” The system could say “no more minutes,” but inside their fascia-friendly home, progress didn’t wait for a calendar slot. It lived in the small, repeatable things Lisa could do with her daughter, every single day.
This is what it looks like when the power lands back in a parent’s hands—not as pressure, but as peace. It doesn’t require a perfect schedule or three-hour routines (we tried that; real life said no). It asks for consistency, compassion, and tiny inputs that add up. “We have this time after school… snack, rest, congestion therapy, then WeFlow practice.” A simple sequence. A doable habit. The opposite of overwhelm.
And maybe that’s the quiet revolution here. We stop trying to force what isn’t available yet—lifting, drilling, correcting—and start supporting what is available: the body’s own way of finding balance from the inside out. We stop measuring ourselves by how well we can “play with toys,” and start honouring the kind of presence we can give. We stop waiting for the next appointment to feel hopeful, and start noticing the wins that show up in everyday life—more comfort, better sleep, clearer access to a communication device, a shared joke, a face that lights up: “Ooh, I did it.”
If you’ve ever felt, like Lisa, that you didn’t fit the mold of a “therapy mom,” or that your child’s increasing weight is making everything harder, or that you’re tired of exercises that feel like a fight—let this be your invitation. There’s another path. It’s calmer. It’s kinder. It’s deeply effective. And it belongs to you.
Want to hear Lisa in her own words?
Her full Instagram Live testimonial is attached to this post. Listen for the parts where she says, “I feel connected to her… it’s purposeful… it feels soft… once we’re in position, I set the timer and just go,” and the moment she shares “feet sad”—the day her daughter used her device to tell the world exactly what she needed.
Progress lives in moments like these. And your hands are more powerful than you think.
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